Posted by Marty Freeman on May 12, 2010
Are you dating me or your friends?
Posted in: Relationships
There seems to be a new thing going around. Maybe you’ve heard this question or maybe you’ve asked this question yourself……Are you dating me or your friends? If you or your mate asks this question just don’t discount it and move on to the next topic. With that question coming up someone has issues in your relationship. Maybe they’re insecure or you’re making them insecure. There’s nothing wrong with having good close friends but friends are just that……they’ll be there. If you’re looking to start something or share your life with someone your friends should respect that and try to do the same. Justifing hanging with the girls or guys just further lets your mate know that’s where your priorities are. Maybe you just don’t need to be in a committed relationship if your friends mean that much to you. If you have to check with the fellas or girls before you make plans with your mate you are wrong on so many levels. People complain about not finding someone to committ to and when they do they want to hang with there friends over there mate. This just doesn’t happen to young couples it happens to mature ones too! If you have to beg your mate to spend time with you it’s already over and your just going thru the motions. NEVER BEG someone to share your world or to do things with you. Find someone else………PERIOD! And you know I’m right.lol What do you think? Have you done this before?
AC SAID YOU HAVE A GOOD ONE:
ANYONE IN THIS POSITION HAVE A “NEED” TO BE VALIDATED BY ANOTHER PERSON…WHY I DON’T KNOW…IF I’M DATING HIM…HE’S A MAN WHO IS WORTH IT AND HE’S IMPORTANT TO ME…TOO IMPORTANT FOR ME TO PLACE MY GIRLFRIENDS IN OUR WAY..BESIDE, I RATHER SPEND MY TIME WITH A GOOD/DECENT MAN THAN WITH MOST OF THE WOMEN I KNOW…NOTHING PERSONAL..I’M A BIG GIRL WHO KNOW WHEN & HOW TO PLACE MY FRIENDS IN MY WORLD.
Comment by GERRI PATTERSON — May 12, 2010 @ 4:40 pm
It amazes me how friends and lovers compete for the attention of one person. I think that there is a time and a place for everything and everyone. I have a BFF that believes that any and every man I meet has to meet her approval or they will not stay around. I had to “politely” inform her that that is not her role and BFF.. All I expect of her is to be nice if she doesn’t care for the person I’m seeing and not to block with the I really need you moments (when it is not that serious) when she knows I’m going out. I do believe that jealousy and misery plays alot into the way some relationships develop or don’t develop. People can say they can separate their relationships but most of the time they don’t they want to make sure that their friends feel as though they haven’t lost anything and that their mate is content.
Comment by MissLady — June 5, 2010 @ 8:27 am
There should be balance in every good relationship. The man I’m involved with would never have to compete for my attention. He will have his place in my heart and my life and it won’t be behind my girls. I don’t need my friends approval and He will know just how important he is to me.
Comment by Ingrid — June 22, 2010 @ 4:10 pm