So much attention is put on holidays and gift giving I’m wondering when it’s just gonna become apart of our lives. For some of us it’s routine. I’m not a Scrooge and I do believe in giving and doing for the one you love but there are limits. Commercials on radio and TV make it seem that if your not spending you don’t care. Do you know how to love without buying gifts? Here’s some questions…Does all the things you do wrong go away when you buy that gift or box of candy? How much time does the gift give you before you have to buy another one? Is your love based on money, jewlery or gifts? Do they really love you because they spent X amount of dollars on you? Is the gift for you or is it for your self esteem? I can honestly say that when I give to my lady it comes from the heart and I do it all year. When it’s expected of you to buy and spend to me that’s when it’s not real. Valentines Day is truelly a kids and women’s holiday and should be welcomed and not expected. For the ladies only…..If your love only shows you he loves you with flowers and candy one  day a year you need to find another lover. If you except the 1 day of love you deserve everything you get and no need to complain. NO MAN should expect anything but a hug and a kiss for Valentines Day. If he is upset that you didn’t get him something…ask him who’s the woman and who’s the man.