Congrats to the happy couple!

There seems to be a new thing going around. Maybe you’ve heard this question or maybe you’ve asked this question yourself……Are you dating me or your friends? If you or your mate asks this question just don’t discount it and move on to the next topic. With that question coming up someone has issues in your relationship. Maybe they’re insecure or you’re making them insecure. There’s nothing wrong with having good close friends but friends are just that……they’ll be there. If you’re looking to start something or share your life with someone your friends should respect that and try to do the same. Justifing hanging with the girls or guys just further lets your mate know that’s where your priorities are. Maybe you just don’t need to be in a committed relationship if your friends mean that much to you. If you have to check with the fellas or girls before you make plans with your mate you are wrong on so many levels. People complain about not finding someone to committ to and when they do they want to hang with there friends over there mate. This just doesn’t happen to young couples it happens to mature ones too! If you have to beg your mate to spend time with you it’s already over and your just going thru the motions. NEVER BEG someone to share your world or to do things with you. Find someone else………PERIOD! And you know I’m right.lol What do you think? Have you done this before?

So many times people say they want a good person in their life and when it happens they’ll take advantage of  the situation. Working here I get a lot of letters, emails and phone calls from men and women saying the person they are with is great but…….. Personally I think people that ask for what they want and get it and are still not satisfied are selfish people and will never be satisfied. It’s like someone who says that has other issues about relationships they haven’t settled and if that’s the case why are you asking for something when you still have commitment issues? Selfishness comes to my mind. I’m not saying people need to settle but stop being so superficial and stop making up excuses for your short comings. I recently had a young lady email me that she loves the guy she is seeing and he’s everything she has asked for but she had issues with her dad not being around and she has had bad relationships. She’s scared he’ll leave her like her dad left her mom. What can you say to that?  How about this….stop asking for blessings that your not ready for. I’ve been in a situation like that and let me tell you it sucks. When you think you’ve found someone only to find out you’ve been wasting your time with them it really shows lack of respect for you and selfishness on their part. Unless the issue is resolved your relationship is heading nowhere. If you know you have issues about relationships……..stop getting into them! Remember you get out what you put in. If you want to be by yourself then do just that. If you want to lie to yourself that’s one thing but don’t do it to the people who care for ya.  Just my opinion but if you like drama continue to do what you’ve been doing. What do I know huh?